move beyond survival and into mutual growth, and deep, fulfilling love.
Couples Therapy
with Jake Lohwater, LCSW
Empower yourself with the confidence to make informed decisions about your relationship, understanding that your feelings and needs are valid and important.
couples therapy
with Jake Lohwater, LCSW
Empower yourself with the confidence to make informed decisions about your relationship, understanding that your feelings and needs are valid and important.in 90 days.
HOW IT WORKS
Rebuild the Relationship You Miss:
A Practical Roadmap for Change
Many couples struggle with feeling disconnected and misunderstood, often feeling helpless or frustrated by recurring issues or when trying to meet the demands of family life with relationship needs.
It takes empathy, tailored strategies, and ongoing support to feel empowered, and connected.
PHASE 1
Healing the Self – Emotional Growth & Personal Well-Being
Step 1: Reclaiming Clarity & Self-Worth
Discover how to see your own value again, independent of your relationship, setting the stage for healthier interactions and self-respect.
Step 2: Identify What’s Not Working & Why It Matters
Pinpoint the core issues that disrupt your emotional connection, understanding their impact to effectively address them.
Step 3: Own the Future You Want
Empower yourself to envision and move toward a relationship dynamic that fulfills both partners equally.
PHASE 2
Get Through to Each Other – Real Talk, Repair & Mutual Respect
Step 4: Break Through Avoidance & Emotional Starvation
Tackle the patterns of neglect and avoidance, fostering an environment where both partners can express their needs without fear.
Step 5: Reclaiming Emotional Reciprocity & Respect
Restore balance by ensuring that emotional give-and-take is respected and valued, redefining the relationship as a place of mutual support.
Step 6: Strengthening Communication & Emotional Safety
Enhance your ability to communicate effectively, ensuring that both partners feel safe and heard, solidifying the foundation of trust.
PHASE 3
Designing What’s Next – Clear Plans, Mutual Effort & Emotional Stability
Step 7: Rebalancing Responsibilities – From Overburdened to Equally Supported
Address and redistribute the practical and emotional responsibilities within the relationship, ensuring no partner feels overburdened.
Step 8: Advocating for Emotional and Physical Needs Without Guilt
Learn how to express and negotiate both partners' needs without blame or guilt, fostering a nurturing and supportive environment.
Step 9: A Sustainable Partnership to Enjoy
Cement the practices and lessons learned into everyday behaviors, securing a lasting, loving partnership that can adapt and flourish over time.
PHASE 1
Healing the Self – Emotional Growth & Personal Well-Being
Step 1: Reclaiming Clarity & Self-Worth
Discover how to see your own value again, independent of your relationship, setting the stage for healthier interactions and self-respect.
Step 2: Identify What’s Not Working & Why It Matters
Pinpoint the core issues that disrupt your emotional connection, understanding their impact to effectively address them.
Step 3: Own the Future You Want
Empower yourself to envision and move toward a relationship dynamic that fulfills both partners equally.
PHASE 2
Get Through to Each Other – Real Talk, Repair & Mutual Respect
Step 4: Break Through Avoidance & Emotional Starvation
Tackle the patterns of neglect and avoidance, fostering an environment where both partners can express their needs without fear.
Step 5: Reclaiming Emotional Reciprocity & Respect
Restore balance by ensuring that emotional give-and-take is respected and valued, redefining the relationship as a place of mutual support.
Step 6: Strengthening Communication & Emotional Safety
Enhance your ability to communicate effectively, ensuring that both partners feel safe and heard, solidifying the foundation of trust.
PHASE 3
Designing What’s Next – Clear Plans, Mutual Effort & Emotional Stability
Step 7: Rebalancing Responsibilities – From Overburdened to Equally Supported
Address and redistribute the practical and emotional responsibilities within the relationship, ensuring no partner feels overburdened.
Step 8: Advocating for Emotional and Physical Needs Without Guilt
Learn how to express and negotiate both partners' needs without blame or guilt, fostering a nurturing and supportive environment.
Step 9: A Sustainable Partnership to Enjoy
Cement the practices and lessons learned into everyday behaviors, securing a lasting, loving partnership that can adapt and flourish over time.
Rediscover the Joy and Connection
You Once Shared
It’s entirely possible to return to the days when your relationship felt fulfilling and joyful. With this practical roadmap for change, you can rebuild the bond you miss and move forward with a clear plan. This structured approach not only addresses the immediate challenges but also lays down the steps for sustainable emotional growth and mutual respect. Don’t just reminisce about the good days—use this actionable guide to revive and enhance what you’ve cherished most about your partnership.
What We're Going to Cover
Navigating the challenges of marriage isn’t easy, especially when feelings of neglect and emotional exhaustion set in. Jake Lohwater's coaching provides empathetic, insightful strategies to help you both feel heard and valued, transforming your relationship into a source of strength and joy.
Reclaiming Emotional Integrity
Gain the confidence to assert your feelings and desires without fear of dismissal.
Learn how to set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being and promote mutual respect.
Develop the tools to communicate your needs clearly and confidently, ensuring they are not only heard but met.
Rediscovering Partnership and Support
Cultivate a deeper understanding of each other's needs, bridging gaps that have led to feelings of isolation or neglect.
Rebuild the foundational support system of your marriage, where both partners feel equally invested and valued.
Enhance your ability to work together towards common goals, celebrating each other’s successes as your own.
Strengthening Love and Mutual Respect
Rediscover the parts that sparked your love, incorporating them into daily interactions to reignite passion.
Foster a culture of appreciation and admiration, where each partner feels truly cherished.
Learn strategies for dealing with disagreements in ways that strengthen rather than weaken your bond.
Hello, I’m Jake Lohwater, LCSW
Welcome to a New Beginning
Feeling distant from the person you once connected with so deeply can be profoundly disheartening. It’s like watching the core of your relationship slowly erode, leaving you wondering if it’s possible to ever find that closeness again. I'm Jake Lohwater, and I understand these challenges intimately—not just as a therapist, but through my own personal experiences of navigating relationship highs and lows.
This isn’t about quick fixes or temporary patches. It's about diving deep, understanding the root causes of disconnection, and actively working towards a rejuvenated partnership where both partners feel valued, understood, and deeply connected. Whether you're dealing with emotional neglect, a breakdown in communication, or just the wear and tear that life can put on a relationship, there's hope.
Together, we'll explore targeted strategies that address your specific relationship challenges, rebuild the emotional foundation, and ensure that you both feel equipped to manage whatever life throws your way. It’s time to move beyond survival and into a phase of thriving, mutual growth, and deep, fulfilling love.
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How does this program work?
This program is structured as weekly video sessions over a 90-day period. From the comfort and privacy of your home, you'll find that the natual environment allows you to privately talk about what really matters, and practice new tools in real time. Each session targets different phases crucial for couples. We cover expressing needs, navigating emotional reactions, and rebuilding trust. The sessions include practical exercises, personalized discussions, and continuous support to ensure significant improvements in understanding, emotional connection, and communication within your relationship.
What’s covered in the program?
This program covers essential aspects necessary for re-engaging with one another. We focus on enhancing communication, managing emotional reactions, advocating for personal needs, and fostering intimacy. You'll learn how to break negative cycles, communicate effectively even under stress, express needs without fear, and ultimately strengthen your emotional bond.
Do you see clients in person?
Yes, I have an office two days per week at Opera Galleria Building, 123 N College Ave STE 213, Fort Collins, CO 80524.
Who’s this for, and not for?
This therapy is ideal for individuals and couples eager to change and improve their relationships. It’s particularly beneficial for those experiencing communication breakdowns, emotional struggles, feelings of disconnection, or ruptures in trust. If you’re looking for quick fixes or are not ready to engage in the therapeutic work, this might not be the right fit for you.
What if I’m still not sure?
It’s completely normal to feel uncertain about starting a therapy program. That’s why we offer a free initial consultation. This session will help us understand your unique challenges and goals, and you'll learn how our program might address your specific needs. It's a no-pressure opportunity to see if this approach feels right for you and your partner.
Rebuild the Relationship You Miss:
A Practical Roadmap for Change
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